January 11, 2010

Encouraging Words 1/11/10-Support for Grieving LGBT People

From the Hartford Advocate (hat tip to Gay Agenda):

In 1995, when Bloomfield resident Dennis Kane lost his same-sex partner of 12 years to AIDS, his supervisor at work assured him that no one had to know.

"I had set up a memorial service and my boss made sure to tell me, 'I didn't tell anybody your partner died because that would be too embarrassing for you,'" remembered Kane. "He thought I would want to hide this. He thought he was being supportive."

Things only got worse when Kane sought out a support group to help him get through the grief he was feeling.

"If you're a gay person coming into a bereavement group you can very often be met with overwhelming prejudice and hostility because of being gay," said Kane.

Kane says he even called a state hotline in search of a support group, but was told there were only such groups for gay people who were trying to come out of the closet.

With nowhere else to turn, Kane finally ended up in therapy for two years to deal with his grief, because there was no support group he felt comfortable joining.

That's why this month, in association with VNA HealthCare, a home care and hospice agency headquartered in Hartford, Kane is launching a bereavement support group specifically for gays, lesbians, transgenders and bisexuals in the greater Hartford area.
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